The Power of Kindness in Kink and Life
Catsuit is a powerful speaker.
He/They talked about his/their journey to self-acceptance and struggles to find his/their place. While he/they was talking, something strange was happening to me. I was actively listening and reacting to him/them, but in parallel also reliving my own journey. As he/they talked about living authentically and the freedom that brings, internally, something finally “clicked” for me.”
Attendee at Coastal Carolina Fetish FairFor Catsuit, speaking isn’t just a talent—it’s a mission fueled by love for the kink and fetish community. With over 35 years of experience in broadcasting, they’ve spent a lifetime using words to inspire, uplift, and bring people together. But their true passion? Sharing the power of kindness.
A decade ago, Catsuit took the TEDx stage in Dallas, delivering a deeply personal talk on kindness—one shaped by the experience of being asked to speak at their mother’s funeral. When they found their home in the kink world, that passion only deepened. Through self-identification, authenticity, and storytelling, they created what would become their signature class on kindness—one that has touched and transformed lives across the community.
Catsuit’s devotion to the kink and fetish world is unwavering, and they are eager to bring their message to your event. Their workshops don’t just teach—they create connections, spark conversations, and leave lasting impressions. A travel trade is usually all it takes to welcome their inspiring presence to your audience.
Let’s make it happen. Let’s celebrate kindness, authenticity, and the beautiful connections that make our community thrive—together.
For reviews of Catsuits Classes and a listing of where they have presented, click right here!
Being Authentically Kinky
Kindness, Connection, & the Courage to Be You
Living Authentically Kinky: Kindness, Connection, and the Courage to Be You is a powerful, heart-centered class designed to help participants embrace their kink identity with courage, compassion, and confidence. Led by Jon aka HiThereCatsuit, this workshop dives deep into what it means to live a life of integrity within the kink world—navigating shame, guilt, and social stigma to reclaim personal joy and agency. Combining practical tools with emotional insight, the class empowers attendees to define their own “normal” and build more authentic, meaningful connections through intentional kindness and honest self-expression.
What sets this class apart is its focus on the often-overlooked emotional core of kink. Through stories, reflection, and real-world examples, participants explore how kindness (to self and others) enhances play, fosters connection, and supports a sustainable kinky life—regardless of orientation, experience, or ability to be “out.” Whether attendees are seasoned kinksters or just beginning their journey, they will walk away with renewed confidence, clarity, and a sense of belonging. This class is ideal for inclusive events that value authenticity, emotional intelligence, and connection-driven kink.
Kickstart your Kinky Heart
How to get your conference started off right!
KICK START YOUR KINKY HEART! is the ultimate Opening Day or First-Morning session to energize your entire event. Designed to shake off travel fatigue and morning fog, this high-impact, high-connection experience gets attendees out of their seats and into their bodies, minds, and kinky hearts. With interactive games, playful negotiation challenges, and shared storytelling, participants jumpstart their creativity, build instant community, and step confidently into their authentic selves—all before lunch. This is not a lecture; it’s a launchpad.
Inspired by the rave reviews of Jon aka HiThereCatsuit’s Improv class—hailed as “the best way to start a conference”—this session delivers that same kinetic spark with even more heart. It creates an immediate sense of belonging, safety, and joy that sets the tone for the entire event. If your conference thrives on connection, growth, and unforgettable experiences, then Kick Start Your Kinky Heart! is the must-have opener to get everyone fired up and fully present.
The Original
Kindness and Other Kinks
What if one simple shift in perspective could transform your relationships, your play, and even your life?
Jon has spent years bringing people together through the power of connection, and at the heart of it all is one fundamental truth—kindness matters. In this workshop, you’ll explore the difference between being nice and being kind, and why embracing kindness can open doors to deeper, more fulfilling play partnerships and relationships.
Based on his acclaimed TED Talk, Jon will take you on a deep dive into power dynamics—not just in kink, but in society—and how flipping the script can change the way others see you and how you see yourself. From celebrities to everyday interactions, you’ll discover how small acts of kindness can create powerful ripple effects.
We’ll also explore how kindness can enhance your scenes, bringing an unexpected depth to even the most intense dynamics. One highlight is the notebook scene—a breathtaking combination of words, impact, and sensation, first performed at Winter Wickedness, that welcomes those who feel lost or unsure of their place in the community. Through this, you’ll see how kindness can be woven into dominance, submission, and even pain, turning lessons of struggle into lessons of joy.
And as a special gift, every participant will receive one of Jon’s signature notebooks—treasured by dozens, if not hundreds, of kinksters for the way they inspire connection, reflection, and growth.Many have called this class life-changing. Will you be next?
Presented at Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, Naughty Noel, KinkyKollege, Cure Columbus, Kink-ed Atlanta, TES-NYC, Coastal Carolina Fetish Fair, Spanksgiving Symposium (St. Louis), T3WC South Carolina Campout and Fetish Con 2023 and 24, Also in 2024 at KIC Events (Columbus, OH) The Grand Fetish Affair (Cincinnati) Less Dead Studio (New York), and Kinkify (Dallas)
The Concept of Simply Love
How do you know when love exists and when it doesn’t?
When is it okay to call something love?
Simply Love redefines relationships in a way that creates the ability to open up love to more and more people. Love is a scary word, but when taken inside this concept, it does not have to be.
For those who believe in a finite amount of love, this class is an eye opener.
For those who believe in infinite love, this class brings order to the chaos of complicated relationships.You will learn new terms such as “my Non-Negotiable,” “my cuddle buddy” and so many more that work better than friends with benefits.
Here is the writing the class is based on bit.ly/catsuitsimply
Telling your story with Authenticity
A workshop on capturing kink through writing
What do you take away from a scene—just a fleeting memory, or a story worth remembering?
Join Jon, aka HiThereCatsuit, for a deep dive into the art of storytelling, where you’ll learn to capture your experiences in writing and interviews. As the host of Authentically Kinky, Jon has interviewed icons like Midori, Jean Bardot, Sunny Megatron, Lucy Sweetkill, and Dia Dynasty—bringing their stories to life in a way that resonates.
In this interactive workshop, Jon will guide you through introspective techniques to help you craft authentic, meaningful narratives. Whether you want to document your journey for yourself or share it with the kink community, you’ll gain tools to express your experiences in a way that connects and inspires.
Jon’s FetLife writings have sparked deep connections, with readers saying they feel transported into the stories. Now, it’s your turn to create that magic. Come ready to explore, write, and share—because your story deserves to be told.
The Four Pillars of a Scene
Plan with Purpose, Play with Power
How do you know when a scene is ready? Not just safe—but resonant, connected, and unforgettable? This class is designed for thoughtful players who want to elevate their experiences beyond the moment and into something deeply meaningful. Centered around the Four Pillars—Respect, Consent, Connection, and Implementation—we’ll explore how to use intention and planning to craft scenes that feel more like powerful chapters in a longer story.
Whether you’re new to kink or seasoned and seeking more spark, this workshop gives you practical, creative tools for negotiation and design. We’ll cover how to approach potential partners with confidence and kindness, dig into the Likes, Limits, and Loves list, and experiment with imaginative negotiation frameworks like Storytelling, One-Word Scenes, and Painting a Picture. You’ll also be introduced to the Pillar Planner, a scene-building guide that helps you bring your ideas to life while centering safety, connection, and care.
More than just play—this is about building trust, creating shared intention, and discovering how your scenes can become the beginning of a deeper journey. If you love planning, crave clarity, or want to be more intentional with your kink, this class is built for you.
Reviews of Catsuit’s Classes
“One of the best classes I attended was put on by HiThereCatsuit called Kindness and Other Kinks. I won’t give any spoilers, but Oh My God, attend it if you get the chance.”
“Several people thanked me for encouraging them to go and said it was exactly where they needed to be. My partner said of all the classes they attended yours was the most impactful and was exactly what they needed to hear. They told me you are one of the most sincere and genuine people they have ever met and that made them instantly feel at ease and safe.”
“Sending another thank you for your class and your truths and your wonderful energy! You are amazing and beautiful!”
“I did enjoy your class. Not sure I could adequately explain it here, except to say that if you have the opportunity to catch this class…do it!”
“I was openly somewhat skeptical about what class would be about, based on the title. While I’m still not sure exactly what the “kink” aspect of this was, I can confidently say that I will never see the world the same way again, in an amazingly good way.”
“Thank you for the kindness that you teach and bestow on others. I really appreciated your class, for many reasons. You are a great storyteller, and so empathetic; just like Mr. Rogers was. You may very well be the kinky Mr. Rogers, and I hope you take that as a compliment.”
“Your classes were perfectly on time for us and I am tremendously appreciative of the impact you have made on our lives.”